Alena Kate Pettitt

If you want to know the true art of etiquette, it is not held in social position, or a table setting. It is the position of your heart.

After some exhausting adventures during my twenties, in particular working in London in product development and marketing for the beauty industry, I finally settled down in the Cotswolds to get married and have a baby boy.

An early mid-life crisis of confidence left me shattered emotionally and wondering why the world, despite all its beauty and opportunity made me feel so unsatisfied with my life and how my lifestyle choices had destroyed my self-esteem.

I decided to write my first book, Ladies Like Us which documents my rise to grace, and everything I learned about learning to love myself in order to help other young women experiencing the same feelings.

After requests for more on the subject of a return to traditional values, my second book English Etiquette was released in the Spring of 2019, which is a modern field guide to good manners with a time-honoured spin.

When I’m not doing the school run, drinking tea, or cooking something delicious, you’ll likely find me writing about all things British, taking walks in the countryside, or stalking the royal family.

It’s all so frightfully English

In the beginning, the concept of The Darling Academy was an online finishing school for ladies who wanted to obtain a little royal elegance for their lives, much inspired by the modern monarchy. But over the years we unearthed an increasing demand for information about British lifestyle, and to not only learn good manners, but how (and why) to apply these every day. Manners aren’t just for show, they are a way of life. Etiquette, respect, tradition, and acceptance is at the very heartbeat of ‘Britishness’.

The very idea of ‘good manners’ in the British sense has become somewhat convoluted and dare we say it, contrived, in recent decades. Ladies and Gentleman the world over wish to know exactly what makes us so charming – and so, this website has evolved to not only explore the ins and outs of English behaviour, but also what drives us, makes us proud, shocks us, and leaves us so willing to defend it, we’ll extricate ourselves from global arrangements that no longer serve us.

The Darling Academy is apolitical, but incredibly patriotic, and very proud of England’s reputation, industry, culture, and history.

Our articles explore and feature the best of English lifestyle, all the pomp and ceremony, and daily life in the homes of true blue Britons.

Etiquette Books

Now you know our story, click below to find out more about our books; English Etiquette & Ladies Like Us.

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