Alena Kate Pettitt

If you want to know the true art of etiquette, it is not held in social position, or a table setting. It is the position of your heart.

After some exhausting adventures during my twenties, in particular working in London in product development and marketing for the beauty industry, I finally settled down in the Cotswolds to get married and have a baby boy.

An early mid-life crisis of confidence left me shattered emotionally and wondering why the world, despite all its beauty and opportunity made me feel so unsatisfied with my life and how my lifestyle choices had destroyed my self-esteem.

My first book, Ladies Like Us documents my rise to grace, and how I learned to love myself - I wanted to share this journey in order to help other women experiencing the same feelings.

After requests for more on the subject of a return to (or learning to live by) traditional values, my second book English Etiquette was released in the Spring of 2019, which is a modern field guide to good manners with a time-honoured spin.

In January 2020 I made worldwide news as a “Trad Wife”, a curious individual who chooses to take care of her family over having a “career”, and this raised the #ApronCladArmy. You can see more about that here.

When I’m not doing the laundry, drinking tea, homeschooling, or cooking something delicious, you’ll likely find me writing about traditional living, weeding the vegetable patch, or stalking the royal family.

I’d love to invite you to join the Apron Clad Army. It’ll help you stay up to date with my articles, it’s easy, completely free, and simple to do, just subscribe here. Our encouraging, uplifting, and practical advice articles will be sent directly to your inbox as soon as they’re published!

As Seen On

  • Independent
  • The Sun
  • BBC
  • ITV's This Morning
  • The Daily Mail

What is The Darling Academy?

In the beginning, the concept of The Darling Academy was an online finishing school for ladies who wanted to obtain a little more grace and elegance in their lives. But over the years we unearthed an increasing demand for information about British lifestyle, etiquette, and living a little more “traditionally”. Our readership like to learn not only about good manners, but how (and why) to apply these every day. Manners aren’t just for show, they are a way of life. Etiquette, respect, slow living, and acceptance is at the very heart of traditionalism.

The Darling Academy is very proud to support a traditional way of life, among the outspoken modern narrative.

Our articles explore and feature the best of traditional living, homemaking, and the daily life of a housewife.

Etiquette Books

Now you know our story, click below to find out more about our books; English Etiquette & Ladies Like Us.

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